You seemed to have it all!
The successful business or career, the family, the friends, the house (although, if you are completely honest with yourself, it wasn't really fulfilling, something was nagging at you, something was missing) ...
That is when life chose to knock you down: you lost someone dear to your heart, had to fight a life-threatening disease, left a toxic relationship, faced depression, lost your job or went through bankruptcy. Everything you had fell into pieces, and you may even have lost everything in the process! There you are, feeling lost and completely disoriented in what seems to be a bottomless well.
Believe me, I know what you are going through, as a matter of fact, the only thing I haven't experienced myself from the above list is facing a serious disease. But I also know that there is a way to change that and that it is possible to make things happen again in your life and business. I know, because I have done it for myself!
But, let's revert to you. In a situation like that you only have two choices:
1) look at your circumstances and continue to believe that the odds are against you. As a result nothing will ever change, or,
2) reconsider all your choices in life and business and see this situation as an amazing opportunity to reinvent yourself!
Let’s take a closer look at the second option:
Before life hit you, you were highly driven; you obviously had the skills and the needed competencies. You knew how to make things work for you. That hasn't changed, so there is no reason for you not to succeed again! The thing is, back then you were missing a few pieces of the equation. You were not connecting the dots between you, your life and your business and that has ultimately hit you in the face.
What it would take to for you to be successful again but this time with room for more meaning, more happiness and fulfillment?
Step 1 - Clarify who you are and what is important to you
Caught as you were in your rat race to success, you weren’t connected to what was true to you. Now is the time to step back and reflect. Time to think about your values and your needs as well as your vision for your life and business. What would that change for you?
Step 2 - Clear what stands in the way of your success and fulfillment
Take a closer look at your mindset and at the lens through which you are viewing your life. How do you relate to money and success? What do you need to change to be fully in charge and make the conscious choices that will lead to your success and fulfillment?
Step 3 – Put yourself back at the center of your life
If you are like most women I know, there is little to no room for yourself in your life. Now that you have identified your needs and values, what are the boundaries you can implement to ensure they are respected? How can you make your self-care such a priority that it has a positive impact on your relationship with yourself and others?
Step 4 - Reassess and up-level your business
Look at your current business model (or the one you had thought of if you haven’t set up your business yet). Who do YOU want to work with? What value do you bring to them and what services can you offer to ensure that you no longer trade time for dollars? What business model do you need to implement to ensure your business can sustain the life you desire?
Step 5 – Don’t let your business rule you and your life
A business is a business, not an expensive hobby. You need to handle it as such, but if you don’t pay attention, you will quickly re-create the rat race you run away from when you were in corporate. What systems and tools can you implement to ensure you stay focused and on top of your business? What can you delegate so you spend your time only on activities where you add value?
Take our online assessment, if you you would like to know what is missing for your life and business to support each other.
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